Fix building against sqlite3

* Explicitly check for sqlite3 at configure stage, remove old include
  dir, fix header inclusion.
* Use configure results for linking instead of hardcoded linker option
  for sqlite.
* Add dependency on -dev package for .deb

Change-Id: I6d7f697d67651f02ceb77fc4da4317b64fa47f9e
Fixes: OS#1928
7 files changed